My personal solution here is to ask my boyfriends to work by the rules of a public swimming pool: if you wouldn’t get away with it there, don’t do it in front of my son. But it also means more special time as a couple when you do manage to escape for those precious nights away (once you’ve found a very trusted babysitter, of course).
You’re a mum, yes, but you’re also a woman who wants to flirt and enjoy a nice glass of wine in some adult company.
I think it’s important to make clear to the person you are dating that you aren’t looking for any help with parenting.
In the early stages of dating, that’s really none of anyone’s business. Know anyone you meet will be lucky to get such a fabulous two, three or however-many-it-might-be-for-one deal.
You know your child is the best person ever so why assume another person will feel any different?
But regular singletons don’t instantly picture a future where they’ve settled down and had four kids, so neither should your date.
Someone recently broke up with me because they just “couldn’t get their head around being a dad”. He just went all Mystic Meg and couldn’t handle it.I’m happy to confirm that my son has positively transformed my life in so many ways, he’s the most wonderful and perfectly-timed gift I could have wished for.Plus, having a child helps you put things in perspective; I’m ten times more confident and capable now.So the word ‘baggage’ needs to be replaced with ‘bonus’, because that’s a more accurate description.Never think that you are doing anything wrong by wanting some time for yourself.Believe it or not, it is possible to be content in a family of two.